I’m Sorry if I Made it Look Easy; It’s not.

In the past year, I have had multiple friends message me regarding motherhood. How do I get it all done? What was my secret?  How do I make it look so easy?  First and foremost, Motherhood is not easy and if I made it seem that way; forgive me. Social media has a way of only showing the good. It’s a juggling act with no comparison. Fulfilling everyone’s needs without losing yourself along the ride. It’s why I run. I find myself in those runs and it’s something just for me.  Running grounds me and helps me be a better mom.  It put things into perspective and I want my boys to know that their mom can kick some ass.

In my opinion, motherhood should be the great equalizer.  Instead it’s a fierce competition to get back to your goal weight, breastfeed your child just long enough (too long and you’re weird – too short and you’re a horrible mother) and going back to normal as if nothing happened. I call bullshit.  This shit is hard. It’s fucking hard and in the United States its even harder with the lack of care given to mothers.  Being pregnant, giving birth, caring for a new born – all of it is really difficult.  It’s the most emotionally vulnerable I have ever been.  You give birth to this baby that your body created that you may or may not feel emotionally attached to and you have to care for its every need even though you have just been through one of the most traumatic things your body will go through.

Bowen at 2 days old.  I only look fresh because they take good care of you at Bryn Mawr Hospital

Its easy to think everything is great when all you get are the happy pictures of a beautiful family. But don’t mistake a couple of picture perfect moments to be the whole story.  Right now, I have two loads of clean, unfolded laundry on my bed, my kitchen floor is in desperate need of being moped.  I have bills in my purse that need to be paid and checks that need to be deposited.  Last night I went to bed at 8:30 pm because I needed to be up at 4:00 am to feed the baby and then fit in my longer 8 mile run before I had to work in the morning.   There was plenty of things I needed to do around the house but I opted for sleep for my long run because that’s what I needed.  I am firm believer in a happy mommy = happy family.   So take care of yourself, you’re the only mommy they got.

I will be following this up with things I do to stay mostly on top of life with two kids, a full time job and all of my extra curricular activities.  Anything you find helpful in your life?

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